New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Carlos,

THANKS for posting. I know how much your son means to you. I said most of my goodbyes to my boys the night before so it's not as hard on the real day. I kept telling myself that I would do my best to stay strong and not breakdown in front of my boys. I knew they were also having a hard time so I tried to keep smiling and be upbeat the day my W came to pick them up. Very tough to put a gameface on. I wanted to leave my boys with a confident and happy image of myself. Anyway...

You'll do well, Carlos. Just enjoy your remaining days and make memories. As far as getting out and staying busy, I visit with my neighbors regularly. They have 3 boys (just like me), almost same age, and same hobbies. It feels good to hear the neighbors' kids laughter and home noise. I miss it so much. The neighbors have become close friends, a second family. They don't judge me and have accepted me like another family member. They also remind me often about how much I have changed after a year of separation. It helps to be affirmed.

I am still learning to play the guitar as a hobby. I thought about doing scrapbooking, like my W used to do. Why not? I have so many years of Army pics to put together. Might as well try...I don't go out in the evening. I really just try to function as if my W and kids were still here. Sounds boring, I know.

Anyway, keep your head high, Carlos. You are a great DAD and a great motivator. Til next time,

JR