Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

So, the consequences are, he has to endure a "fight" from you, and then he gets to come back home again.

Hmmmm.

It seems to me he keeps CROSSING your boundary. A boundary crossed, with nothing other than a "fight" as the consequence, really isn't a boundary at all. It's more like a "GeeIwishyouwouldn't."

I'm at a loss here.

I was dead-set on setting an ultimatum/boundary then H starts with the 'wanting to work on things' talk. So, I put it off. I feel like I have barely had time to regroup. I wish I could just 'bounce back' in a heartbeat but alas, I can not. I am human. I am a woman. It's not that easy. I am in the middle of a nightmare, my nightmare, and at times I can't see straight.

I am trying to find my way. I am asking for help.