Well, that's part of dbing. See, when you detach and have no expectations, you will find that your reactions change.
Also, part of dbing -change the things YOU dont like. If it bothers YOU that you have a temper, start to work on it.
If he continues to think that you are lying to him, part of that might be because your changes are not for you and he sees right through them.
Listen, I have told you before, if I could do one thing on here, it would be to give everyone a shortcut pass. I would wish that everyone would get what took me and others a looonngggg time to get.
And that is - if we take the emphasis off saving the marriage and off of our spouses and put it on us, we learn to detach. When we do that and we let go, that is when we have the most growth on this journey. And that is what all of us should strive for.
