Before a marriage can get to this point, there's issues on both sides. You work on yours and you and she'll have to figure her crap out for herself. Remember this, it was very hard for me to do it, but I think I'm getting the hang of it now: YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOU. Nothing else. So do it. Control you.
Be the man millions of women want to be with. Be the husband every woman says "Man, I need me some of that." Be the greener grass, as I've been told. You can do it. You can turn this around, but it's going to be up to her to figure it out.
All this GALing....it's the best thing that's happened to me in a long time. All of this sucks, believe me, but what I've done for me, yoga, tennis, reconnection with my ladies....all great and I love it. I got so wrapped up in my S that I forgot me. And I forgot to really look at H. That's a legitimate complaint of his. Hurts to know I did this, but I did. I own it now.
Here's something else, maybe at the right time you can even say it. I think it's sexy.....the best thing a man can do for his children....is love their mother.
Maybe in the midst of a fight, she says "Why are you still trying????? I just want out!" Look her dead in her eye, straight face you say "The best thing a man cad do for his children is love their mother.....I think you, me and the kids....we're all worth the fight. I might lose, but I'm going to go out swinging....like a man."
