Not Me...Ever part 2

[Faith2010]

I have a question for all you LBS -

My hubby has said some awful things in the past few months and I keep hearing more from other parties as time goes on...

I heard yesterday that he said "I was the biggest mistake of his life" and after reconnecting with his ex/gf "He married the wrong woman"...

Now granted these were said before the PA took place but in the time the EA was happening...

My question - Are these truths deep inside of him?

I can't wrap my mind around these even coming out of his mouth and even though they were said not directly to me, it still is like a slap in my face...

Serenity-

I think the words your H spoke are typical of any person in your H's sitch (an adulterer). H tried to convince others your M was a mistake as a way to rationalize his behavior (i.e. misbehavior). He was really trying to convince himself. Not for a second do I believe those were truths deep down inside.

Of course it feels like a slap in the face. You're only human. Honestly, I don't understand why the 'other parties' are telling you these things. Do people really not understand that all it will do is hurt you?

Keep in mind, the person your H has become is not the man you married. Hopefully that man will return someday.