Ups and Downs

[Energizer Bunny]

Sorry about the near name hijack. It was unintentional. To be honest, my brain works so strangely anymore that I couldn't tell you for sure if I had even seen your name or not.

As for the counseling, I have been going a little. It took months to see that she had some legitimate complaints. I figured she was the one with the problem, not me.

A lot of painful soul searching later I have seen a lot of room for improvement in myself. I didn't think any off my stuff was 'deal breaking' though. As you said...it's her perception that counts. I've learned a lot about that.

She has started going to a new therapist...mostly to hear that she is validated for leaving. (she has been feeling a lot of guilt). I went with her to the last appt. (wife was a robot...emotionally shut down)

W's mom has always been pretty rigid. She runs W's dad
like it's her job. W now talks about feeling like I control her. I am sorry she feels that way and have been really evaluating my actions. (I've been a great guy in some ways...not so much in others) I'm from an emotionally open, affectionate family. Hers is not. She says she feels smothered by my affection.