No it doesn't, and I am in no way try to minimize it. It sucks in ways you can't describe at times.
Don't beat yourself up over that. I still haven't figured out a way to totally be void of all expectations. That is one of the most difficult parts to all of this.
I guess it all boils down to that last line about not having any choice over anything but you.
Then try your best to make that choice based on what YOU honestly want. Don't let pure emotion get in the way. I did many times and it lead to nowhere.
I don't know that I am in any positioh to give you anything else. At this point, what your W is thinking is anyone's guess.
But you are doing well Dear. You have handled this mess admirably, and personally I think you should continue to do so. In the long run, only you will deal with the repercussions of how you handle all of this. And right now, that is the most important thing.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Listen, I know you know that it is best not to act when you are angry and not to make a decision based on emotion.
That said, this sucks, all of it, doesnt it?
In spite of that, I continue to try to learn that the things I cannot change are other people, places, and circumstances. The only things I can change are my attitudes, reactions and action toward the people, places and circumstances in my life.
Take a little time to deal with your emotions. Remember how admirably you have handled all this.
A friend of mine told me to trust in the universe. I am going to give it a try - wanna come?
A friend of mine told me to trust in the universe. I am going to give it a try - wanna come?
Just because I'm choosing to trust in the Universe and consciously follow its lead doesn't mean I have to like it, right?
I appreciate what you're saying, B. I just needed to blow off some steam.
Originally Posted By: beginnersmind
In spite of that, I continue to try to learn that the things I cannot change are other people, places, and circumstances. The only things I can change are my attitudes, reactions and action toward the people, places and circumstances in my life.
...And it's not always easy, is it? We're all so used to hanging on to that illusion of control that it becomes habit. We see it in others, and we buy into it ourselves. Monkey see, monkey do, I guess.
Attitudes, reactions and actions. Back into the saddle I go...
Originally Posted By: beginnersmind
Take a little time to deal with your emotions. Remember how admirably you have handled all this.
I still have pent up resentments and frustrations that I know I need to deal with. And those come from my unconsciously buying into the illusion of control.
Man, the habits of a lifetime are hard to break, aren't they?....
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
I don't know that I am in any positioh to give you anything else. At this point, what your W is thinking is anyone's guess.
But you are doing well Dear. You have handled this mess admirably, and personally I think you should continue to do so. In the long run, only you will deal with the repercussions of how you handle all of this. And right now, that is the most important thing.
Thank you, C. I mean it.
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
