Jeff.. Won't that push him away even further? Ignoring him? If I delete his emails, and see that I don't respond to them, he'll stop and probably for good, no?
No. Have you read DB or DR yet? And anyway, fear is no reason to do anything.
It feels counter-intuitive, but R talks (which your email response was) and anything other than business to be handled is pursuit.
STOP pursuing. If he emails, trash it. Before you respond to calls/emails/etc., WAIT 48-hours and come post here. There's no hurry to respond, and if what you want to say is the right thing to say, it will still feel that way when the emotion has passed and you are thinking with your head.
Remember the initial email you were going to send, then didn't? Yeah, kind of like that.
Hon, it's time to put on your big-girl panties and make the decision to focus on you and actively WORK on GAL, making YOURSELF the source of your happiness, and detaching. Right now you are blowing about in the breeze, your highs and lows completely dependent on him or what you think he's thinking or will do in response to what you do or do not do. That's not detached.
I'm not saying don't cry or be sad, but I am saying to put a time limit on it. When I was in the midst of my sitch, I'd set a timer and let myself cry or scream or whatever for 10-minutes, and then I'd get up and get busy and keep working on ME.
You've really got to let go. If you have any chance at all, it's that.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
