The only way C can do that is to stop letting her blame him by cutting her off when she goes down that path. It's immature and hurtful and she needs to stop doing it.
That's the point she didn't blame him according to CIPA. The advice is geared to what CIPA can do.
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Once she realizes it's not all C's fault then maybe she can realize how IRRATIONAL and IMMATURE she has and continue's to be.
Who is the focus on there? What can you do make someone think the way you want them to?
So not validating on a BIG concession in this sitch is productive how?
I think we are on the same page. You can't make her do anything. You can control the conversation to not allow it to turn into a blame game. When she starts saying stuff like "Im doing this because you hurt me before... blah" he can politefully and respectfully remind her that "I understand you are hurting BUT I already apologized for hurting you in the best. Can we please deal with the present..."
