Scared and need advice

[Laurie]

Dear LFA,

There was a LOT of wisdom that just came from SD Found Girl (and many others)!

SDFG offered great advice on stating to your H your desire to work on the M, but acknowledging you cannot control him. That gives the issue back to your H to decide & put energy into the idea of pursuing a S or D. I agree that any steps you choose to take to make this easier for your H is not helpful to you, the M, and even to your H.

Also, I admire your ability (LFA) to maintain your composure in the midst of a very critical talk!

Take care, Laurie