I don't believe she will take this any other way than as a spiteful move on my part, and it's not. I just don't feel that I am responsible for these things for her, given she wants out of the M, and is completely detached from my.
Oddly, I don't feel sad, or happy, just disgusted that this is going this way.
So, be detached when you give it to her. Not cold, but detached. Explain to her what you just wrote - that this is her responsibility given the circumstances (her wanting to leave). And it doesn't matter how she takes it if it is the right thing to do, and it sounds to me like it is. Tough love, man.
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I wonder at time how I am her roadblock in life? given I have been paying her way, and giving her nothing but space for 8+ months. I guess I can never know. Any former WAS got some insight into why I am perceived this way? She's been doing whatever she wants for months, but I am her main problem in her life, and the cause of all her hindrances..
NONE of that matters, mostly b/c what she has told you probably isn't true. My brother has a saying that you can't make sense out of nonsense. So don't try to.
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Whatever, I suppose, I can't know what she is thinking. I know she hurt for a long time, and I was a huge part of that, so I'll take that away as something to fix, and have been fixing for me so as not to make the same mistakes..
Nope, you were 50% of the reason for it. No more, no less. Fix what you need to, but don't trick yourself into believing you were more responsible than you truly were.
