I had lunch with Julia today and she mentioned what had happened. We were both so upset and I'm in such shock... The audacity of your H in lying and then making the motion to work on the marriage when you were clearly so happy, taking your away potential path forward (the D) and then continuing his deception. I'm totally disgusted by his behaviour. It is one of the worst examples of WAS behaviour I've ever read on the boards. Hideous. Duplicitous. Weak.
The blood drains to my feet thinking of how painful it must have been to see the evidence before you and to think of the memories you'll now carry around. It reminds me of my aubergine bomb and there's nothing that compares to the insidiousness of that feeling, the kind of acute agony it brings. I literally have no words to convey the depth of my sympathy for what you're experiencing now and I wish I was there to help and offer a listening ear.
In my sitch it was impossible to think of a future or anything other than the shock and horror at the lies when I had confirmation of the A. I don't think I have any good advice other than to focus on one minute, one hour and one day at a time (one day, get it?!). You know where I am and you know that there are men with more integrity in their little toe than your H has in his entire body out there. Better men.
