back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Realization seen through GALing and detaching...
What I have learned in the last 6 months of this living purgatory is this: When I got wound up about something and decided to make an issue of it I made matters worse. Feelings were doing the thinking. The feelings in most cases were derived from fear or an idle mind with nothing more to think of than the marriage or the demise of the marriage. In other words I over thought and in some cases took a small event and rolled down the hill like a snowball. At the bottom of the hill the small thing became this enormous thing that it really should not have been. Not good or healthy.

The letting go does give you peace. My challenge has been to not get where my W is...not feeling anything for my spouse or at least saying I don't. I don't want to be that hypocrite.