Your H reminds me a lot of my H the first time around. Threatening D a lot, not sure if he can give up "friends" or if he should have to, even the coming back rather quick then not sure bit...
Do your best to let him work through this. It is all you can really do anyway and he has to figure it out. This is not any more fun the second time around, trust me on that one, and a lot more confusing. For everyone involved. But you have to keep your boundaries, no matter how much you want him back. If you don't, you will find yourself always questioning yourself and your marriage.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
