Hi all, I am trying to figure out if I can talk to my husband's close friend (a friend of mine too) about working on our marriage. I haven't talk to anyone in his world in the 8 months we've been separated, and tried not to pursue. This was best man at our wedding, and someone that years ago said to feel free to talk to him about issues we were having (had gotten in a big fight during our engagement, and this friend helped), and actually 'warned' me a bit about H's temper. I intend to do no bad-mouthing at all, just inquire if there is any advice he has and see if he can in any way encourage H to work things out (or attend retrouvaille or anything) before making things final. My intentions are good and I think if it got back to H I could just say "i love you and wanted to talked to Friend to see if I could help in any way" i want friend to know H means more to me than anything, i am committed and have been soul-searching, and possibly he could add some positive element here. Thoughts?
I want to leave no stone unturned, and may regret if i dont talk to him. This is where i have some trouble w DB...what efforts is worthwhile and when to let go?
