You could always just to agree somewhere neutral to get the kids and then skank can pick him up there without her coming to your house. Can a friend take you?
If not I guess she might have to be in the driveway. Yuck. I don't know if you have any sort of recourse unless she gets out and is walking around. then maybe you could say something about her tresspassing. Try to go with option one if you can. I am so glad you are getting the car back. Sucks that his name is on it. Will that change once the divorce is final?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory