Bearsfan, Thank you SO MUCH! Funny about my name... I'm not even Irish, but my husband (rather, ex-husband) is. I picked it up as a good password a long time ago and have used it ever since for lots of things because it's easy to remember.
I know that I have to stop convincing him. The ironic part is that if I look at my reaction when he backed off and let me think, I realized that I wanted to work it out. My brain knows that he needs this time and breathing room if he is going to come to the same conclusion. I just get overwhelmed by the feeling that he needs to hear it from me because I have not been one to say those things in the past. But I know he knows how I feel.
We have kids, so I do have to talk to him pretty much everyday anyway. He was coming to pick them up this morning - we are living with my parents right now - and I told him I was just heading out for a run after coming back from the gym. He didn't want to go in and get the kids (my mom finding out about the EA just a few days ago has him a little skittish) so I told him to stop when he saw me running and I would get in with him and go back and get them. He did, and the first comment he made was that I wasn't wearing enough clothes. Really? He asked me again about the date, I asked how he could tell by my voice that I had a date. He said I just sounded happy and I told him I WAS happy. Then dropped it. At the same time, he was coming from spending the night at his girlfriend's house with her kids. Reality check!
He was taking the kids to go work with him for the day, they did not want to go. He said it was "his" day and they had to. He ended up making my 8 yr old son go (although he was in tears about it) and letting my 10 yr old daughter stay.
Told him I was going to take our son to do an activity at the fair tomorrow night. He said he wanted to come and help. I told him not to worry, I could handle it and had people to help me if I needed it. That ticked him off, with him saying that he was not going to have another man helping his son do that. Again, really? He has his girlfriend helping my daughter with an activity and sees no problem with it, even telling me to stay away from the activity if it is "his" time. Seems to only be a problem if the situation is reversed.
I am here writing again because I need to talk it out and am doing my best not to contact him. He gives me mixed signals constantly, especially when I back off, but in the end it seems that his choice is to work things out with his girlfriend. Why can't I get that through my head? I am getting better though.
