back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Coach Thanks. I just needed to hear other opinions. I really think you are right on the "Nice guy" thing.

My first thought was screw it she is leaving. Then I thought that was being a Richard. I always try and take the higher road. It was that good old catholic up bringing and guilt complex. Which of course fits into the nice guy thing. Kept down the path what if we D. I hate to say that as I am here with all the detaching and GALing for me in an effort to make all things possible and better. That includes my wife staying my wife and not the big D. I came up with my ideas and bounced them off a friend who is divorced.

I am sure this is flawed thinking but here is why…I saw her not having a job or career if I didn't. She would remain a SAHM. She would definitely get 100% kids custody. Which means I have to foot the bill for everything after half is gone. We live in an area of extremely high cost of housing. So I didn’t want to have her stay somewhere nice I me have to live in a dump just to be close to kids. W having work and career would lead to her having to pay for her own things. That would make my load lighter on support and kind of level the playing field as we would both be working. That would make it better for a joint custody situation. Neither of us could leave the state but I could get the kids more than every other weekend.