@rinserepeat-thanks for the recap on your experience & comments. It seems to be an all too common pattern w/WAS's when they sense you're serious about moving on happily w/out them. Too bad the LBS is sometimes not able to get to this point until it's @ a point of no return.
Mine was a hard nut to crack, so to speak, & no amount of pretending to move on that wasn't entirely real was going to get him to budge. Part of that is prolly due to his making boatloads of $ & believing I couldn't/wouldn't leave that, find someone as handsome as him, or give up on having an intact family.
He may have calculated himself right out of a marriage & into paying heavily to support us in the family home w/him watching from the sidelines.
Moral of the story, drop that stink'n rope sooner rather than later.
On Sunday, when I was laying out what is going to happen if we don't come together on an acceptable (to me)agreement financially, he started with the WAS script talk; "I regret everything I have done & the way I have done it, but, you didn't give me an honorable way back in b/c you kept coming to my house."
I went to his place 2 times in 2 1/2 yrs for a total of maybe 10 minutes. Still not ready to get rid of the "but" & take responsibility.
Hey Ms. Gypsy, couldn't type that w/out thinking of the letter you received with the passive/aggressive crossed out Mrs.
I'm afraid to give him any opening, even on a friendship basis, until he gets back to me w/counter proposal.
So, he freely admits that the price he's going to have to pay has something to do w/his desire to stop the D. Along w/the fact that he still loves me, blah, blah, blah. If he had it to do over again, he would never have done the dishonorable thing he's done.
I'm going to have a couple of weeks to sit on it, as he just dropped off S6, & leaves for another extreme sport competition in the morning. He was as friendly as is possible, making it difficult not to respond in kind.
And that's the hard part, we have always enjoyed each other, and then I think of how that wasn't enough to keep him from choosing OW & leaving.
You would think that new guy had a good amt of experience with DB'ing, because he sure is clued in on how to make the best of time together in every way. He has given me a heads up that if I add anyone else into our R, it's a deal breaker for him.
I did ask H b/f he left this morning if he had completed the new offer. "Ah, no, it's not likely, it's a lot to think about & I do have a lot of work today."
Looks like a way of putting my attorney off for the time being.
