I locked H out of the house last night. It was 2am and no H, no contact from him where he might be. I got up and locked the front door. Left the back one unlocked but when he did arrive he chose to sleep outside somewhere rather than coming in where he knew I would know.
Earlier in the evening he txtd and called, but didn't happen to mention working late or whatever...
This morning I was just getting on the bike to leave for work and he strolled by, looked surprised to see me. He listened and waited for me to finish my phone call and then launched into coversation about day to day stuff and asked about my evening and said some things to IMPLY where he may have been but no outright offer saying where he was so late.
I don't feel anger, I don't feel sad, I feel strong for finally enforcing a boundary I have said to H that if he couldn't contact me about late night whereabouts then don't bother coming home. Right or wrong, I did it. Don't know what's next but I expect nothing more will come of this if I don't drive it. That's where I get confused now, do I ask him to explain where he was until 2am or just wait and see what his next action is?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
