You are in a tough situation - separate in the same house. I was able to tolerate W sleeping on the couch for about a week, then asked her to leave. I give you allot of credit. You need a place like the DB forums to vent!
I read in another thread a similar sitch with the W "teasing" the H. Not sure if this is a testing behavior or what. Of course you want to ML to your wife. As far as I can tell you are a human and as such are driven by certain desires(needs?). Not to mention the fact that you probably had an active s#x live that stopped quickly. I've wanted to ML to my W for a long time. Kind of hard to do when she doesn't feel very loving. If we were to have s!x at this time it would be just that. Kind of like my non-genuine attempts at change - transparent and fake.
Thanks for letting me vet out some of my thoughts on your tread. I'm probably not telling you anything new but this helps me work through my own issues.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09