You know it's over when your mom tells him to stay away!
Isn't it weird that being told an awful truth is always better than uncovering deception? I think it's because you become a 'team' to resolve it rather than being left alone to feel the horror and lies.
Yeah yeah yeah... so he's crying, hurt, frightened waking up to the consequences of his action, inaction and lies. Being indecisive is smacking him in the face, heart in ways he never imagined. And hearing him or friends say he's sorry, listening to his tears, knowing he's suffering has its appeal.. but only for so long. Okie doke.. enough about him.
Know the difference between wanting to know it all versus becoming obsessed in the details. You're an incredible woman who loves her children and spreads a sense of "Kalni-ness" in whatever forum, guise, essence you choose.
You aced the ball in his court and you're leaving the stadium. Game, set, match.
Continue being honest with yourself, the you within. Do what is right for you, what you need in a healthy relationship with a man, a family, your children.
Divorce sucks. No child ever wants their parents to separate, to be torn between two people they love so dearly. Yet, sh*t happens in life. Assure the kids you are not going anywhere, that you love them with all your heart, that their daddy does, too. That this is something that broke between the two of you even though you loved each other very much and tried very hard.
Like the story of the divorced father who had his kids gather up all the twigs in the yard which he bundled up and tried to break apart. Only through great effort and time did the twigs slowly begin to break eventually destroying the bundle. "That was the love between you and your mother. We loved each other very much but over time we broke the bundle."
He then told the kids to go gather sticks which they did. The dad tied those in a bundle and no matter how hard he tried, he could not rend it apart. "This is the love I feel for you. Nothing can break it, nothing will ever rip it apart. My love for you is unconditional and forever."
And so the father taught his children of the meanings of love.
