I agree with Pigskin on this. We are each the best judge of our spouses. After all, they chose to marry us, so at some point, they felt that we were more compatible than all others.
I appreciate Sandi's advice on she felt when she was an almost WAW, but there is not only one kind of woman. I was an almost WAW too, and I still wanted sex with my husband. I will admit that your wife is more like Sandi than she is like me, but that doesn't mean she is exactly like Sandi. Maybe she gets some satisfaction out of being desired even if she doesn't want to ML. Perhaps she is trying to turn you on with the things she does. Then, completely hiding your desire would be a bad thing. I know I have always liked to see a little lust on a man's face, even if I had no desire to have sex with him. It says to me that I am attractive and desired. Sometimes, that's all I need to make me feel good about myself.
It's OK to come here and ask for advice. And you will get lots of advice. But the decision as to how to act with your wife is your own. If it works out, you get the benefits. If it's a dismal failure, you suffer the consequences. So when you take advice, be sure you are willing to accept its ramifications.
