I was in a similiar sitch and I was not going to support something that I thought was going to ruin my marriage/family. That is "Nice Guy" mentality to sign a loan, tough love means I will support your efforts when we both have a plan and are mutually in agreement.
Listen to the man.
I'm in the same position. Hurts like hell but ...... don't do this again. Big girls make decisions with consequences and must stand on their on two feet.
