Things like that are what make the EA's so difficult to deal with. There is no way you can MAKE your spouse drop the EA, they have to do it on their own. And from what I've gathered through the DR book and these forums, all you can do is worry about yourself and let the spouse know what you will not tolerate in your presence/home etc.

Your reaction is natural, I would have had a hard time holding back as well. But if you look at it from your wife's perspective, your actions don't make you look any more appealing to her. Plus there's no way to prove your wife was lying when she said this was a one-off incident, and as you said, you ASSUMED he's been there all along.

Just mentioning it because I've found that almost all of my assumptions of lying/negative intent that I formulate in my own head with regard to my W's actions or words have turned out to be wrong. Then I'm glad I didn't say or act on what I was assuming.


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