K4D Rising #4

[K4D]

Were you drinking then, or promising to quit?

I had quit when she annoucned the D back in February 2008. I quit for a few months. Then she told me it was fine to drink some. So I did. Then I drank, not to the level I used to, but still and uncomfortable level. Then when she said she wanted a D again in September 2009, I quit again. But I also fell apart in every other way. At times she told me that she wished I would start drinking again just so I could handle myself better.

You guess. That doesn't souund like a committment. When are you going to start back?

ASAP. Saturday. Maybe Friday night. I'm busy tonight through Thursday night.

So when does the work start? You have made some progress, what comes next?

The work is going on. I am doing things for me. Working out, dancing, hanging with friends, reading the bible, going to church, spending time with my kids, etc. I am actually sore today from doing push ups and squats last night. Tomorrow night I do them again. Tonight I will just walk my 4 miles on the nature hike with a friend tonight. I'm making myself healthier and more physically fit. I am also eating a lot more vegetables and changing my diet around.



Kevin

[K4D]

Hint, hint, nag, nag.

That cracks me up. lol.



Kevin

[Goodfight]

Hi Kevin,

If you get a chance jump over to my thread. I left you a message there.

[jon2911]

Kevin,
Are you and FaithfulH still talking about getting together with other DBers from Dallas?


Jon

[K4D]

Jon2911,

Yes. We are. Are you here in the area?

Kevin

[K4D]

Jon, if you want to meet for dinner or something let me know. FaithfulH won't be back in town until sometime later this month. He is in the transition of relocating down here.

Kevin

[K4D]

Ironically I ran into my SIL last night at a softball game that I went to with 2 lady friends that were playing who said I should come to the game.

SIL asked how I was and proceeded to tell me that the reason MIL is against me is because my W keeps lying to her about me. Then she told me that my W is blaming me for the D being dismissed. I said how is that possible when I am not the one that filed? She said my W is telling everyone that I had the papers so W couldn't remember what the date was. I said that is not true. I said we both had copies of the papers that were signed and notorized. She has a copy and I have a copy. My SIL said she knows that and my W is lying about things.

That kind of frusturated me. Every time I want to put some kind of faith into my W, something else happens to make me lose it.

I also found my W owes $2,500 in rent as of today. She hasn't paid since early June and that was only a quarter payment for the month of June. Why isn't she managing her money better? I guess the track record continues.

Kevin

Kevin

[Steve McQueen]

I also found my W owes $2,500 in rent as of today. She hasn't paid since early June and that was only a quarter payment for the month of June. Why isn't she managing her money better?

maybe its time to divorce her before you get hung out to dry

[CityGirl]

Do NOT talk to family members about ANY issues between you and your W or the divorce. It will only cause more strife and distance and major conflict and will NOT help heal a darn thing.

If her family brings up something to you simply say in a polite fashion that all matters between you and your W are private and you prefer not to discuss them. If they dont get the hint be more firm in setting your boundaries and stick to them.

I can assure you that nothing good will come of you discussing your W and/or the divorce with HER family members even if they bring it up.

Same with the info the SIL gave you about the rent money. Simply say that you would prefer not to talk about it and how she manages her money is her business and leave it at that.

Do not get baited in a discussion because you want info. You have no idea if any of this is true and gossip never leads anywhere positive.

If you must walk away from the person feeding you this info but do not engage.

[K4D]

Apparently according to my SIL, my W also through a fit about not being able to use her mom's car while her van was in the shop. Her mom apparently finally gave in after W through a big enough fit.

Steve, the house my W is renting belongs to her step father, so she won't get into any kind of legal trouble that would affect me. But he will demand the money from her. That much I am sure of as I have seen him to it before with her.

Kevin