I did not call you argumentative, I said you seemed to become defensive when other's opinions do not match your own. That is all. It is simply an indication that your emotions are very close to the surface, and who can blame you. I just caution you that in an attempt to emotionally survive a divorce, you will close down your heart for a time. It is difficult to be selective on what and whom you close out, and children are often included in being shut out. Certainly not because you intend to hurt them, but only because you will be in survive and recover mode.
So what of my suggestion in returning to therapy with your wife? It sounds as though she is aware there is a problem, but is either unable or unwilling to address it. Sometimes continued therapy forces a spouse to remain accountable for their actions because there is a third party involved who has no emotional investment in the outcome. Kind of like weighing in at weight watchers... people tend to stick to the diet because they know that scale doesn't lie.
Continued therapy might also help you deal with the understandable anger you have. It may be a constructive way for you to express it without her feeling like your 'at it again,' you see?
Now certainly if you feel you are beyond the point of anything helping, then returning to therapy could assist the two of you in dealing with your approaching seperation and divorce.
It is just a suggestion. It is, however, an avenue for you to take action, rather than beating your head against a wall and feeling you have no one who can hear you.
