I think she had "acknowledged" some of her part, but she always minimizes it by saying she has done everything that she knew/could do over the last couple of years so there isn't any more that she could have done.
That's where the "ownership" gets diluted......
This is where I think you totally miss your opportunities. Your wife knows she can get your attention and control you like a puppy dog. She is wanting you to "see" her for who she is. You are interested in what about her? Have you not been doing your best and everything you can over the past couple of years? I don't believe she married you with the intention of getting divorced. Instead of validating and showing compassion about her comment you discount it. How much ownership does she have to take for you to see her hurt? Stop keeping score. She is leading you when you need to be leading. Handle it.
Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
