O,
I'm not an expert but one thing that I have noticed in my sitch is that I have to be genuine regardless of what I do. When I started DBing last year I made some attempts to DB with 180s and GAL but they were half baked at best. I was just going through the motions. Not only did my W see through my actions, it was impossible to sustain. I would always find myself coming back and checking the temp or not having enough energy to sustain the charade. It got so frustrating that I simply quit. Even got rid of my DB book. I did however spend a good deal of time working (finding?) on myself through reading and consoling.

Fast forward to now and my GAL is genuine and noticed. Will it save my M - no idea. Has it saved me - yes, and I can live with that.

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Me-41
W-39
M-15 yrs T-17 yrs
D-12
S-9
S-8
B 5/08
S 1/09