Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[antlers]

She's pissed that all of your positive changes occurred subsequent to her detaching and deciding she was done with you.

That's my foray into mind-reading. I experience it myself with ex, though in my sitch, it is he who left so having him act like Mr. Considerate Perfect Guy annoys the sh*t out of me, especially since the repercussions of his actions are ongoing so it seems like "hey, don't pay attention to me scr*wing you this way cuz I'm being a champ over here in this other area."

Anyway, that is not your sitch, right? She initiated this. Her resentment that you seem to be delivering more of what she wanted before is her problem. What option do you have?

Learn how to not answer. Just keep doing you're thing. You're not going to drive her away (you've accepted she's gone, riiight?), you're being a better you and over time if she refuses to accept your behavior as authentic, that would be her problem, right?

I'm pretty much off the boards these days but I saw you asked for my input among others so I'm giving it.

Hello AAK.

Yeah, I asked for your input, specifically, because I put a lot of stock in it! I completely understand what you're saying in your first sentence.

I'm sorry you're in the situation that you find yourself in. I hope things will get better for you...because you definately deserve better things than what you're having to deal with currently!

I understand her resentment. Delivering more of what she wanted before is my only option...it's something that needed to happen...no matter what! And it's happening. But, she is still hurt and pissed...understandably.

I haven't been taking the bait. When I do respond...it's compassionately and validating (with much help from you and others here). Thanks.

Stay strong AAK. I appreciate you, and thanks for responding...even though you're off the boards right now. You've got a lot of support here.