I find this thread very interesting. A board full of people doing all they can to hold their marriages together are discussing the merits of divorce.
Quote: Corri has a nack for painting a picture, but it seems like an incredibly presumptuous one. Like she has a crystal ball and has it all figured out for me. I can respect the downside of a divorce, believe me.
I did not see a crystal ball there. It sounds more like a photo album.
Sir, you seem to seek the opinions of others, yet become very defensive and claim people don't 'know' you when perhaps they say things you do not wish to hear.
Of course we users and lurkers of these boards do not 'know' you, only what you choose to share. You are facing a very difficult decision, and I do not believe anyone is judging you for it. It seems to me they just want to make sure you examine it from all angles before you leap.
Staying together in a marriage for the sake of the kids does not guarentee they will grown up any more normal than if you choose to leave the house. The variable, however, is that if you do leave, your child's chances of encountering life long struggles will signficantly increase.
You seem to be a person caught betwix and between. That is good. It shows you have a conscience. Perhaps you should reconsider the effectiveness of therapy, however, and return for a greater length of time to make absolutely certain you have done all you can. You are the strong one in your relationship, yes? So your wife is not so strong as you. Building strength takes time. Take her back and call her on her broken promises. Some people can breeze through therapy in three months and find their answers. But for most, it takes much more time, and it takes a spouse who is not willing to accept broken promises, but can find it in their hearts to forgive them.
