Divorce not busted 2

[FaithfulH]

Re: Sandi2's comments about those that espouse unconditional love:

I find it interesting to see how many people who are very clingy, needy, and co-dependent are the ones who usually say this.

Sandi2,

How big is your sample size? Up until 6 months ago when I moved from CT to Dallas, I regularly (at least once a month) met with 15-20 men who speak of their unconditional love for their WAW's. I am still in daily contact with many of them. These men are some of the STRONGEST, INDEPENDENT men I have ever met. I think YOU might have unconditional love confused with some sort of boundariless thing that has nothing to do with unconditional love. In fact, when you wrote....

I didn’t want to see nice & sweet…I wanted to see strength & power.

...it made me wonder why you think "nice & sweet" are the opposite of "strength & power"? Why not "Nice and sweet AND strong and powerful"? If I had displayed some of the behaviors that you said you wished your H showed....I can almost guarantee my W would have continued her run towards the D. Instead, we have experience 2+ years of AMAZING restoration. What does that tell me?....I guess, one size does not fit all. Or...maybe there is a good blend of strong boundaries and unconditional love. That's what I like most about this site...the diversity of opinion. I'm not trying to spark an argument with you....just sharing a different opinion. Have a nice day!