Corri, you covered all the bases and made your argument well. Divorce, in my opinion is not an option when children are involved unless there is physical or abusive behaviors that directly involve the children.
cloudnine, you need to find better justification for breaking up your children's home than not getting regular sex. Your children are going to ask you why. When you sit them down and tell them that your participation in their lives is about to change drastically they are going to want to know answers. If you believe that they are going to feel willing to suffer the kind of pain they are going to suffer just so you can have regular sex then you have not thought it through. My ex is fond of saying he divorced me and not the kids. Funny thing is though, the kids felt that he had chosen to leave them also.
Although it may feel as if I am berating you that is not my intent. I'm giving you the bottom line...divorce is no longer about you and your wife. The ones in your divorce who would suffer the greatest loss and emotional pain are your children.
If I had to live the rest of my life without sex I would make that choice if it would mean taking away the pain my children have suffered. There are two things you have to think about when weighing your options in the matter. Which is more important to me as a man and a father...my sex life or my children's emotional well-being? That, is the bottom line. Sorry Cathy
