well i still want to be with her but I know I cant show her that with out looking "needy"
from your descriptions of your converstions with your wife, she seems to be the one that is needy.
Originally Posted By: wifeleft2009
in short she had decided to tell me today that some days she wants to be back and other times no. she is happy now, and we will never work out. i told her ok, and i said i will still be your friend but i said I wanted some time to myself (past posts show how she always contacts me) she flipped said im too up/dn and called me an ass
I think you were making her confused over the space you were giving her. in hindsight, it might have been better to have just ignored her and leave her to think more about the situation.
Originally Posted By: wifeleft2009
i lost my cool told her I now hated her
not sure that was such a good idea but I am pretty sure she is going to continue texting you. sounds like you are now the walk away spouse. prepare yourself for more pursuit and confusing behavior. you both are suffering. you need to take some time to realize what you really want then in time find out if she is willing to commit to working on your relationship. what committed and behaviours to you desire from her and is she capable of providing you those?
from your earlier posts it sounded like she just wanted to play with you. I think you could have used her for some sex, but you were looking for more just that from her. you will have more than just another chance to call her out on her position in your marriage. the more you pull back the more she is going to pursue. i think it is just going to take more time of you finding yourself, the problem though is she going to know herself well enough for you to be happy in a marriage with her? Steve.
