i myself have a wonderful marriage excluding the sex thing! the last 2 years he has lost the desire,but making love is wonderful! how can it be a totally fulfilling marriage when one partner doesn't get the basic emotional needs such as :feeling desirable,to be wanted,to feel attractive,to be able to express, physically, to your partner ,the closeness,the ultimate feeling of oneness is to me the epitome of making love and being as one! the rapture that you can experience is amazing!!all these needs,when you do feel them, are important!