It's MY life now!!!........

[Silent Chrleader]

Yea, I know, BM. That's why I am waiting and seeing if the feeling goes away....... and I will talk more with my C about it to help with what I might want to accomplish with it, and if it is possible, ya know?

These feelings come and go, and I am really doing very well, and I don't want to jeopardize that at all. And it's not that I want to tell him my feelings on the R anymore......I have been quite open about those and I don't feel I have anything left unsaid....... It's more...... I don't know.......

..... and that's why I'm not going to do it (at least not yet).....because I'm not absolutely sure what I want to accomplish. My thought about doing it after the legal seperation but before the D means in about 3-9 months. That gives me time to find out if this feeling will subside, and to plan if I choose to initiate a talk.

I am wondering about just how he plans to live during his Chapter 13. He is living with GF of course, but has talked about dating others and said he has told her he won't marry her (but who knows if that will change). Anyway, his "housing allowance" under the bankruptcy is going toward the house I am living in (remember, the dream house is being allocated to me). If she up and kicks him out, what is he going to do? He has friends to go to, I know, but I'm not thinking they will let him live rent free for 3 years...... I have thought about asking him, but I won't because it's definitely not my business...... but I still wonder!
((((((BM))))))