They are both great and I have read them both several times. It's worth getting DR too. The Five Love Languages is also a must read. I don't know about you, but reading helps me feel like I am at least doing something while I am trying to do "nothing". I struggle greatly with not calling, checking in, getting a temperature reading. That's why I'm on here right now because I just want to call him and see how he is and hear his voice and get some indication that my life is going to be OK. Even though I have done that over and over and it has never turned out the way I hoped. It's an addiction of it's own and is so hard to let go of. I have devoted 15 years of my life to this man and I love and miss him so much and I can't even call and ask him how he is or what he is doing without it seeming to be some sort of intrusion in his life. It sucks. I'm glad you are stubborn and stron. It will make things easier for you.
