Just got a call from my wife. She told me that the before and after school daycare for D7 has been totaly booked for the year. That means she has to pay more for daycare. Before the bomb I was getting up with the kids and getting them to school in the morning. This costs my wife an extra $200 a month. Daycare for our 23 month old is $236 a week. Now, daycare for D7 is going to cost $25 more a week. Total of $1244 a month. The kicker for me is that she called ME about it. She asked me if I had any ideas on where she should enroll our D7 in daycare. I told her that the daycare that our D23 months would be better because they would be in the same place together. I wanted to tell her that if we were back together the cost would be much less but I did not. I have to let her see how this will affect everyone. When it comes time for her to pay child support on top of this other stuff it will get very difficult.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Tonight I spent the night taking care of our kids while my wife was working late. She got home at 9 pm. We did not talk about much. I knew I was coming off as uncomfortable so I went into the basement to clean up what used to be my workshop. We talked about nothing before I left at almost 11pm. Tomorrow is her birthday and I am still unsure what to do for it. I think I will just have D7 decorate the kitchen and have a birthday cake there.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Just keep it simple. Happy B-day. Just don't be over the top or have any expectations.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Well, I sent flowers to her at work from the girls. No I love yous or anything. I bought a small cake and had "happy birthday Mommy" written on it. I got home with my kids and D7 made a poster and a card for wife. Wife got home and announced that she was taking the girls out for dinner and guess who is not invited. I totaly expected this so I told the girls to have fun at dinner with mommy with a smile and joy in my voice. I had the birthday cake down in the basement so it would be a suprise. D7 and I went down and lit the candles and brought the cake upstairs singing happy birthday. Wife and kids blew out the candles. I told the kids goodbye and snuck in a one armed hug around wife as she was holding D23 months. She did not get all tensed up either. I told her happy birthday and left.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
After the hug I could tell by the look in her eye that I would hear from her later...and I did. At 8:30 she texted me, "thank you for helping the girls make my birthday special." I responded,"The most important thing a father can do for his children in love their mother." That is a quote that I have seen on this forum somewhere. May not be very DB but I thought it was the time for it.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
No 2x4 here. And of course you wouldn't get a response. Great job on not reacting to the dinner not including you. I think you handled yourself ok. She already know you love her - no mystery there.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Thanks Wifey, That was a sarcatic "no way" I did not expect a reply. I do not expect anything for what I have been doing but if she does reply then I talk about it here. I fully expected her to give me the cold shoulder on her own birthday because she has to keep those walls up right? She can't be seen as showing any kind of softening to her own husband,for the sake of the kids of corse. (more sarcasm) I plan to go dark for a while now but still be up beat when Iam around her.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Any thoughts on retro Wifey? I dont think she would even consider it but I might try it if I run out of ideas.
Heard from her today but I ignored the call. One minute later she called back instead of leaving a message so I thought it would be important. It was not. She could have easily left a message.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Red alert!! I feel like my guts had been removed and spit on by my WAW Yesterday I found a journal that she has been keeping since April-bomb time. EVERYTHING that I suspected about her and the "friend" has been written about in her journal. All day trips on his motorcycle,movie dates,dinners,lunches, the way he smells,dreams about him,etc. etc!!! It makes me fuc@ing sick!!I have done so many things for her and she only cares about him! She even said that she has thought about leaving her kids behind to run off to Italy with him! What a great mother huh?!
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
but I did not. I have to let her see how this will affect everyone. When it comes time for her to pay child support on top of this other stuff it will get very difficult.
I did not expect a reply. I do not expect anything for what I have been doing but if she does reply then I talk about it here. I fully expected her to give me the cold shoulder on her own birthday because she has to keep those walls up right? She can't be seen as showing any kind of softening to her own husband,for the sake of the kids of corse. (more sarcasm) I plan to go dark for a while now but still be up beat when Iam around her.
Yesterday I found a journal that she has been keeping since April-bomb time. EVERYTHING that I suspected about her and the "friend" has been written about in her journal. All day trips on his motorcycle,movie dates,dinners,lunches, the way he smells,dreams about him,etc. etc!!! It makes me fuc@ing sick!!I have done so many things for her and she only cares about him! She even said that she has thought about leaving her kids behind to run off to Italy with him! What a great mother huh?!