Divorce not busted 2

[C-Bart]

I think we tend to misinterpret love or unconditional love. Just because you detach from someone does not mean you stop loving them. In fact I would say that is one of the most loving things you could do. Allowing someone to treat you like cr@p is not showing love. Fear maybe. Not love. I love my children unconditionally, but that does not mean they get to behave irrationally. If I allowed them to behave in a manner that was disrespectful would I be showing them love? No I would be harming their development as people and hindering out ability to have a respectful relationship and productive family.

I loved Dr. Dodson's book on tough love. The reference Sandi made actually the women did what the husband asked with the OW. Maybe under the guise of love but it was really out of fear of loosing her H. We tend to hide behind love because it seems more noble than saying I'm scared to death of loosing my W, being alone, etc. etc.