why dont you call there house over and over and when they answer hang up or slip notes into their lockers. what use to burn my dad up the most was when the house got egged and the toilet paper hanging from the trees. man did he get mad. oh yeah, you could also soap up their windows.
btw, does anyone else remember the carnations on valentines day in high school. there were red, pink, white, and at my high school green. did anyone else have green carnations? what the heck did that mean anyways?
dgtal....please let this be. The other wife already knows. You aren't going to be doing her any favors.
If you really really need to get this out somehow, you should write him a letter. Put a picture of you and your wife kissing each other. And on the back write, "We were stronger than you. Game over."
And really, really let this go. If you don't....you will end your marriage or damage it so badly, you're going to open it back up for your wife to meet someone else.
I wont send it unless I see thinks going the opposite direction.
Thanks bluerain...your letter is better than mine...lol. thanks!!!
almostdonebut... good suggestion. i had that in mind too...lol
Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster
ALMOSTDONEBUT...I'm back here because for the last 2 weeks I have been concerned about if I should or I should'n tell the OM's wife about the affair and I wanted to see suggestions from you guys online. Thank you
Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster
ALMOSTDONEBUT...I'm back here because for the last 2 weeks I have been concerned about if I should or I should'n tell the OM's wife about the affair and I wanted to see suggestions from you guys online. Thank you
Leave the OM and his wife alone. That is their business and his W may even know or suspect an affair, however, she may not want to be told about it. Some women had rather not be told b/c they would have to face it or deal with it if they are told. Even so, the important thing is that you and your W have your M back on track and I promise you that if you ontact OM’s wife, it will result in hurting your own M. OM is not worth it. You want revenge on OM, but he will get what’s due him…never worry about that! I hope that you can find a way to release this poison that is in you that keeps you from being free of what has happened in the past. You are a captive to the OM b/c he has power over your thoughts as long as you want to get back at him. You may think his W has a right to know about this A, but the bottom line is that you want to hurt OM. Don’t do this to your W and to your M. You will be sorry in the end, if you proceed with the plans to contact OM or his W.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Ok. I was just wondering. Again, leave it alone. Karma is truly an amazing thing and he's going to get his. How do you know his wife didn't cheat on him first? How do you know he's not really regretting what he did and is contemplating an apology to you? Really, you just don't know. But one thing is for sure, this miserable man is out of your life, and your wonderful wife is back in yours. Concentrate on her and you and your family and all the other great things and just check the news papers every now and then, see if he has been arrested for peeing in someone's bushes....whatever. But rest assured, he will get what's coming to him. You never know, he may pull this crap with another married woman her H might find out and go beat him up.....whatever. Let it go. You've already won.
"...I hope that you can find a way to release this poison that is in you that keeps you from being free of what has happened in the past..." That "poison" is what in keeping me from confronting this guy in person. I don't trust myself when I'm angry...
Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster
Don't look a gift horse in the mouth. You have been given a reprieve and a chance to rebuild your M. Do not underestimate how extremely fortunate that is. Focus on your W and finding joy in your life with her. Learn to let go of this OM and let him sort out his own problems -- those are between him and his W.
If you are still feeling all this vitriol towards someone that really looks to be out of the picture for you and your bride, then you need to work these out lest they poison this chance you have been blessed with. I advise you to seek some form of IC to help work through these negative feelings you're allowing yourself to suffer.
I am a bit envious of your fortune, dude -- be happy! Onward and upward, bro! Rejoice!
So dgtal, Tell us more about your plans to renew your vows/get married in the church in venezuela. I think that sounds like a great plan, especially after your recent difficulty, it might breathe new life into your M.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
