back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

So here is my quandary...I am still stuck in this gear and cant get past these thoughts. W is planning on going to school. We are not working on "us". W cannot even sit on the couch next to me any longer. She cannot be within 3 feet of me without saying sorry (like we were going to bump into each other and do harm). We do not say ILY or hug and kiss good night, good bye. The kids are starting to feel tension as to who they should sit with at night to watch TV. We have conversations at the dinner table about everyones day but that is about it. No conversations between the two of us even if we are the only ones in the room. I feel I am really stuck as to what to do next. I of course can try and do the math and when I do I get

school for 8 months + wanting to find herself + needing financial security + M is not worth saving = the big D once graduation + new job happens. But I am trying not to be that cynical. I kind of approached it with her in that manner when i signed the loan papers and she said what was I talking about there is no grand plan. Just her trying to find herself and get some self esteem as she has 0 now. What are anyones thoughts?