He is a coward, to go through all the motions, going to the MC, stringing this out for so long when all the while he was seeing someone else and lying about it. If she is the 'prize', what does it say about her if she was willing to sit back for 3 years all the while knowing about you? I hope you are wrong and no baby ever comes from that, ick...
Sorry K. I know that doesn't help, I am sick for you and your kids.
He is a coward. He is worse than I ever imagined. K
I always thought you might be a little hard on him (referring to him as weak), but you were so right. I'm terribly, terribly sorry that you had to discover this on your own. He's a gutless wonder.
So many of us here know how incredibly wonderful you are and I'm glad that you'll be able to put this chapter of your life to bed (FINALLY) and start to move forward.
Hugs, hugs, hugs, hugs and lots and lots of love to you.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Guys, the emails are soooo full with passion. HER passion. I am sick I think... Cant sleep. Reading and thinking. Placing times and incidents to the timeline... Sucks.
It is all his wasteland my dear K. You have wasted nothing, you have only gained and what great gains they are. You are a tower of power. Sooner than soon you will realize.
My heart reaches out to you on this devastating day, BUT it surely only means that the true work you have done is the furthest thing from being in vane. You know it as we all do
This is but one day!
Hang close to our great and mighty God ..He always has your back regardless of what anyone might say or think. Peace comes as early as tomorrow.
tower of power ..there is no doubt in my mind that you will not be bogged down by this much at all. Stick to the basic my dear. Breathe deeply and know that you will not be ok ...but terrific.
Basic, simple stuff for now and varied so as not to dwell on any one subject. You will do it cuz I know you are a strong one.
oh and I have been trying with some success not to be overly consumed w/ anger just about this whole week. You will need to place some kind of emphasis on that cuz you don't want that ..it greatly dims your sunshiny-ness. We rely on that around here you know!!
Good job on confronting him and kicking him out the door. Maintain your boundaries.
Sweet Maria.. with all the hurt, trying to figure out timelines.. it's time to see the counselor. This is a lot to process and you heal better and faster working with a professional. It helped/helps me immensely. As hard as it is, try and let go of the images. It's like watching the devastation on 9/11 over and over again. If you can't stop it, it only gets worse.. and it will eventually hurt you deeper than anything he did.
Finding out the truth.. ingenious. Getting angry and defining your boundaries... great.. Letting go of his shitake and moving forward.. sublime.
