Thanks Antlers. It was a very enlightening session. The counselor was an older woman and she really knew her stuff. She talked too much and seemed to wander a bit, but she had seen our sitch so many times she knew it inside and out.
At the end she warned my w. that if she doesn't do the work she will just find another guy to fill the same role and takecare of her and ultimately lead to her playing the role of a victim. I wanted to scream "she already found him!" But I figured that might not be the right move
She gave me some really good stuff to think about in terms of how I have approached my marriage. But, to tell you the truth, my own counselor has already tread much of that path.
Anyway she agreed to another one. After tonight I am sure I will have more perspective.
