orich, this probably isnt the best day to say this but i hope you get the take away message. I have put some serious time in what seems now like forever into thinking why "they" donot acknowledge birthdays, anniversaries or even christmas presents.
"They" do not like "us" and they are making a point that they really donot want to reconcile. They are here now because there is no other place for them to go.
Think about it. Your buddies recognize your birthday, the receptionist at work probably even says happy birthday, your in-laws and parents will tell you happy anniversary but not your wife. why? she knows damn well what day it is and knows very well how you feel about the marriage. her point is to stick a knife into it.
Take away point. TIME FOR A SERIOUS 180 on your part.
You have probably come across as pursuing, needy, and depressed about your situation. I think that is a natural reaction to being heartbroken and sex starved. You probably were like that in high school and cried when your first girlfriend broke up with you to date the senior football player; and it probably worked on your wife in the earliest stages of your marital problems.
There is a prevalent taught on this board that that behaviour only serves to push the WAS further away. I am convinced that in most cases they are so far away that there is no more pushing them they only view that behavior with disrespect and pity. If that behaviour isn't working. time to do something completely different.
I think you need to decide what that is based on what hasnt worked for you in the past. but, have you ever noticed that the guy who "acts" like he doesn't really want the girl is the one who ends up with the girl.
Steve McQueen
P.S. I hope I am completely wrong and you get laid tonight.
