First Timer

[wolverine1997]

Had a pretty good day. Got up did a lot of house cleaning. Took the kids to Subway for lunch and then to the bowling alley. Let the girls bowl while my son played video games. Got a kick out of watching them bowl, they all stink. (Why do girls like to scream so much?)

Came home did more cleaning. Really starting to get the house to look the way that I have always envisioned. Since my wife has stopped doing things around the house I never thought things would get done. I'm really starting to feel good about how things are coming along. Whether she leaves or stays the house will be a much better place to live. Not that it was bad, just not complete. A few more months and a little overtime at work and I will be able to have the downstairs and the basement furnished the way I want. My next big purchase will be a new TV for the family room and a pool table for the basement. I've always wanted a pool table. After that then I will start on my room upstairs.

Wife just rolled in from work. She called my daughter on her way home and told her and the other kids to be ready to go to farmers market. When she got here she just blew the horn in the driveway and they went rushing out.

I haven't said more than 10 words to wife since deciding to go dark on Sunday. I still feel really good about it. Haven't had much desire to contact her or talk to her.

I did notice something a little different though. She has been really, really jovial and playful with the kids over the last few days. Normally she sits around the house, watches a lot of TV, reading magazines, on the computer or is on her cell phone. She doesn't laugh or play with kids. She used to laugh and joke with us all of the time. We would wrestle and run around the house chasing each other often. She hasn't done any of that stuff in at least a year. But over the last few days she seems a little more pleasant. Probably doesn't mean anything but just an observation.

One more week and the kids and I are off to NYC. I can't wait. Sunday I asked the wife if she could give me some money for the kids for the trip. She told me no and if I couldn't afford it then I should not go. I think that she is a little jealous but would never admit it. Since she has headed down this road of divorce I have traveled more with the kids without her then we have traveled together over the last couple years. Last year we went to Las Vegas, and Ohio. This year we have gone to Ohio for a weekend, we are going to NYC in a week, and I am trying to see if the kids and I can make it to Savannah, GA for my family reunion in OCT. If I go to reunion I am going to see if my mom wants to go with me and kids. I am definitely trying to GAL and "Act As If".