Coach, I like your letter. He's going to think I'm such a b*tch. Oh well. He chose this.
A really wonderful C told me it wasn't any of my business what others thought or felt about me as I had no control over it. All I could do was live my life as truthfully as possible and manage my own thoughts and feelings.
If you were doing this to be mean or manipulative, I think you'd receive very different advice on this board. However, you are being truthful and choosing actions based on what's right for you and your happiness. Any choice made out of fear is a bad choice.
H is not your responsibility...in fact, he never was. YOU are your only responsibility in this world. That doesn't mean you trample over other people, but you don't sacrifice yourself for the well-being or fixing of others.
I second Coach's response. Let the other stuff go.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
