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Thanks for the critique.

I'll scrap it.
But I really, really don't know what to say.

Maybe Im better off just getting straight to the point and say

"I can't, I'm sorry, take care"

Thats all I can think of if my email was that bad and I can see how it is bad. I do. And I understand theres a lot about me, but i've been talking about HIM for too long. But I can see what you guys are seeing.

I don't know. Maybe I really should just say i can't and leave it at that.


Me: 25 years young
H: 37
No Kids
M: almost 3 years (anniv coming up Sept 25th)
Together: 4years
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Ok, I don't know if this is a good email either, but I think I'm going to go ahead with it. Its short. Its straight to the point. No threats, no blackmail, no assuming. Just simple and straightforward. I don't think I can go wrong with this, but then again, I was very wrong with the first one. Here goes:

Hi,

Hope you are doing well yourself.
Unfortunately, I'm unable to sign those papers for you.
I'm sorry, I hope you are able to find another way.

Also, I'm moving so if you would like any of your stuff,
please pick it up by the end of the month.

Again, I am sorry that I can't help you.

Take Care,
B


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No Kids
M: almost 3 years (anniv coming up Sept 25th)
Together: 4years
Bomb: June 12th, 2009

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T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
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PA5/07
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D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!

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Quote:
Hi,

Hope you are doing well yourself.
Unfortunately, I'm unable to sign those papers for you.
I'm sorry, I hope you are able to find another way.

Also, I'm moving so if you would like any of your stuff,
please pick it up by the end of the month.

Again, I am sorry that I can't help you.

Take Care,
B


I won't be signing anything on your behalf considering the current state of our marriage.
If you don't pick up your stuff by the end of the month I am taking it to Goodwill.

-B


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EVEN BETTER!!! Good one coach!


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Funny how those things work. Spend hours writing paragraphs and when it's all done the final message is just a line or two. But understand the first draft wasn't a waste of time. You needed to get some things out and even without sending that message, you've done a little work for yourself. Now just keep moving forward. New apt. New bike. New life.


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Or,
"I'm sorry, I won't lie for you. Have a nice life."

Maybe without the I'm sorry, and have a nice life parts. smile

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Thanks everyone.

Coach, I like your letter.
He's going to think I'm such a b*tch.
Oh well. He chose this.

Orangedog, I definitely felt better after writing all that but it is something I should never send. But its funny, I wasn't afraid to send him all of that knowing he would think I'm a horrible person BUT I'm hesitant to send a short letter like coach's and Jeff's for fear that he'll think I'm a total b*tch. I don't know why that is. But i'm going to keep it simple anyway. Its the best and only way to go about it.

I look forward to my new bike, new apartment, and new life. I will miss him so much, soo soo much, but I have to let go. He doesn't want to be a part of my life so I'll just move on and live it without him..


Me: 25 years young
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Together: 4years
Bomb: June 12th, 2009

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You know what....

It doesn't matter what you say in the letter, as long as you say no, he is going to think you are a b*tch. Heck he might think you are a b*tch even if you say yes. Don't base your actions on what you expect his reaction to be. Do what is rigt. You don't have to explain it to him. If he wants an explanation, let him ask for it.

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Thanks Jeff, I won't base my actions on what I think his reaction will be.

Its just that it feels real now. I feel like sending this email to him is really the end of us. I know I said I wanted to move on now, but it still hurts when you're nearing the end. I will do what is right nonetheless.


Me: 25 years young
H: 37
No Kids
M: almost 3 years (anniv coming up Sept 25th)
Together: 4years
Bomb: June 12th, 2009

**LOVE WILL FIND A WAY FOR TWO FOOLS IN THE RAIN**
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