Thanks Coach. I know - I definitely should have deferred to him a bit more. What makes me so sad is that we took a great trip to Europe last year and I let him plan and pick everything, and thought we were in a much better place and then a month later - wham! - I even quit my job for several months to be home more with him last fall...at the time he said I seemed more like my old self and fun and everything. but then a few bad fights and he left. lots of resentment and bitterness built up over the years. I guess I wonder if it's too late? Has too much damage been done? I am willing to change but I dont think he's done much self-examination lately, other than think he was the one that was wronged. He's in a place where he wants to do what he wants to do, no strings attached. He's asked for D for times but hasn't filed yet... I would like him to attend Retrovaille before we go down this route. I ended up practically crying and begging him to go last time I saw him... I know a major no-no. I may patiently ask one more time when he gets back, but the dates in my area are in Sept. If he refuses, don't think there is anything else I can do.
He knows I love him and would do anything to have him back, and I do think he's noticed some changes in me lately, but says 'great, so you can apply these to your next relationship' Ouch. Any way to get a guy to fall back in love with you, and/or remember the wonderful times you used to have? Honor vows? I guess I can continue to give him space, but this is just breaking my heart. And he's been quite nasty these past few months as well, just pushing me away as much as he can.
