OMG! Maria, I'm so sorry! That just sucks! All of his moping around and not having time makes more sense now. Good grief! What a complete and total jacka$$!!!!!!!
I know you don't want to confront him in the height of anger, but he deserves to be ripped to shreds for it.
Is D in Greece based on fault or is it all no-fault, you go your way, I go mine? Is this documentation anything that will help you in the future?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
(((((Maria))))))))) I am so sorry. So lots of questions answered for you I guess but lots more coming up. I am so angry at him. I had no idea you were checking up on him. No more limbo land I guess. Take care.
You've got strength and beauty that he is a fool to throw away. The kids are the main problem? I don't believe that either. OW is asking for counseling, too, you know. He just lacks the courage to commit one way or the other. He is the one in limbo - that is self imposed. Makes no sense to me why he would choose to live like that.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
Okay.. that sucks the big one. Knowing the 'truth' shreds a swath through the heart. Sending hugs.. and what I found helpful in my case..
I don't hold on to someone who doesn't want to be with me..
then changed it to..
I don't hold on to someone who doesn't treasure being with me.
Spouse wasn't doing anything different (lies, involvement, behavior, joint checking account with her, etc). My awareness changed how I felt, how much more it hurt.
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
Reading 'Not Just Friends' was a life saver, especially the part about forgiveness. Bitterness masks anger which is unresolved pain and hurt. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. Feel your emotions, then send him blessings. It relieves the anger, puts you in a better place and drops the rope. It's terrible at first.. but worth it over time.
If it feels right, a positive thing to do, the answer is yes. If it feels wrong, the answer is no. If you waffle or can't decide, the answer is no.
