God forbid that you DON'T get her a card. (which is what I would recommend for a woman who treats a man like your wife is treating you.) God forbid that you show some backbone or that you start to realize that rewarding her type of behavior is nothing more than enabling and nothing more than showing her that what works the best to get you to love her, is to show you that she isn't sure. YEP.. The less she gives you the more you try.
I remember the year I completely forgot my anniversary. And my husband came home from work with roses and a box of chocolates. And surprised me. I was an unhappy wife at that time, but when he showed up with the flowers and candy, that meant something to me. I remember my daughter remarking afterwards, "Mommy forgot it was the anniversary, and Daddy brought flowers and candy!" And we all marveled at it and laughed about it. It was a nice thing to do. It didn't change my life. But it made me feel better about my life at least for a little while.
I think you are doing fine Orich. You have to make it through another month with no more emotional swings from her so that you can get to Retrouvaille and really give healing a shot. Just keep doing the nice guy routine. It's not working so badly for you. It got her to turn around at least once already.
